I’ve been working on another book about hypnosis and wrote a chapter called “The Hypnotist as Authority”. I realized what I wrote applies to more than just hypnotists. The idea of having authority is a powerful tool anyone can use. As I’ve written, being an authority is about constantly working to keep your life in order. I’m certainly not saying that I have no challenges, just that constantly working on being a better person has some real long term benefits. Those people who seem to have some sense of authority are constantly working to “get their act together”. A hypnotist who has such authority is one I respect.
Here’s the excerpt on Authority.
The Hypnotist as Authority
As a hypnotist your responsibility is to give instructions (some say “suggestions”) to your client so they end up making the changes they want in their life. In that relationship of hypnotist/subject you are the authority, the person being relied on and trusted to lead them. You are an authority in your field. That doesn’t mean you boss them around barking hypnotic commands and instruction. It mean you must behave in a way the makes them want to follow you.
Authority is demonstrated by more than just confidence. Authority is demonstrated by having your act together and being a healthy well rounded person, comfortable with what you are doing and confident in your ability.
Small changes you can make can immediately enhance your authority. Here are a few:
Seeing authority from a bigger perspective there are a lot of things you can do to “get your act together”. You’ll notice the items on the next list are not things you can simply do and move on. They involve every part of your life and should be regularly focused on.
As mentioned real authority comes when you have all your life together. In that way there is nothing external, outside of the hypnosis practice, to distract you. Having your act together is a much longer term endeavor which has no conclusion.