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What makes a good hypnotist?

I’ve been working on another book about hypnosis and wrote a chapter called “The Hypnotist as Authority”. I realized what I wrote applies to more than just hypnotists.  The idea of having authority is a powerful tool anyone can use.  As I’ve written, being an authority is about constantly working to keep your life in order. I’m certainly not saying that I have no challenges, just that constantly working on being a better person has some real long term benefits. Those people who seem to have some sense of authority are constantly working to “get their act together”.  A hypnotist who has such authority is one I respect.

Here’s the excerpt on Authority.

The Hypnotist as Authority

As a hypnotist your responsibility is to give instructions (some say “suggestions”) to your client so they end up making the changes they want in their life. In that relationship of hypnotist/subject you are the authority, the person being relied on and trusted to lead them. You are an authority in your field. That doesn’t mean you boss them around barking hypnotic commands and instruction. It mean you must behave in a way the makes them want to follow you.

Authority is demonstrated by more than just confidence. Authority is demonstrated by having your act together and being a healthy well rounded person, comfortable with what you are doing and confident in your ability.

Small changes you can make can immediately enhance your authority. Here are a few:  

Be clean, well groomed and dress professionally.

Make your surroundings clean and professional looking.

Be on time.

Display certificates, awards and diplomas, news articles related to you.

Always sit above eye level of your hypnosis subject.

Be prepared for every meeting. Call your client by name and know what you will be doing.

Be unhurried in your actions, authorities are in control and have no need to rush.

Remove all filler words from your speech like “um”, “ah”, “you know”. They demonstrate a lack of discipline and uncertainty.

Be comfortable with silence. If you finish a sentence or ask a questions, SHUT UP and wait for reply.

Be comfortable making eye contact.

Avoid touching your face while speaking. This is a comforting behavior that demonstrates insecurity.

Listen intently. Make the other person feel interesting and important.

Give direction. Instruct your client where to sit and what to do. Don’t ask them, just tell them then shut up.

Show acceptance, appreciation and approval toward your client.

NEVER criticize or belittle your client (or anyone else).

Talk about yourself rarely and only if it will benefit the other person. They are not there to hear about you.

Let nothing surprise you.

Seeing authority from a bigger perspective there are a lot of things you can do to “get your act together”. You’ll notice the items on the next list are not things you can simply do and move on. They involve every part of your life and should be regularly focused on.

Live in a clean and organized environment. That means making your bed, have a clean car.

Get your finances in order. Pay your bills. Get rid of any debt.

Have a life outside of your work. Make it fun.

Keep your word.

Manage your time. Plan your day by prioritizing the activities of your day. Focus on the activities that have the long term payoffs.

Be a nice person. Treat the people in your life with love and respect.

Get the rest your body needs. Make it a part of your plan.

Exercise regularly.

Start your day early. That requires going to bed at the right hour.

Have fun.

Accept responsibility for your life.

Meditate on the phrase “How you do anything is how you do everything.”

Practice gratitude.

As mentioned real authority comes when you have all your life together. In that way there is nothing external, outside of the hypnosis practice, to distract you. Having your act together is a much longer term endeavor which has no conclusion.

 

Fear of Hypnosis … some simple answers

I had a client recently who was hesitant about using hypnosis because she grew up in a very repressive religion that used a lot of “mind control” on their members. She wanted to make sure that is NOT what happens during a hypnosis session.

Under the circumstances I can understand her concern and it’s worth writing about it.

I’ve studied a fair amount regarding mind control and all it’s applications. This includes hypnosis, neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), military brainwashing and the various practices used by some religious groups. I’ve concluded that there is a difference between what I do and the mind control done by others.

First let’s draw a distinction between coercion and persuasion. They are both used to get people to change.

Some religious groups use guilt, shame and fear as a central theme in getting their followers to comply. That is what I consider coercion and is no different that a bully twisting your arm to get your lunch money. Coercion isn’t isolated to certain religious groups, it’s a common theme in dysfunctional family and some social groups as well. Coercion gets the job done quite well but it’s hard to believe that the followers feel a lot of joy and freedom.

Persuasion, on the other hand, is much more of a negotiation where you give up what you don’t want to get something that you do. Like giving up a smoking habit and getting in exchange a sense of freedom, peace of mind and relief. Or giving up bad eating habits to feel a joyful sense of self-acceptance.

Hypnosis (at least the hypnosis I use) is all about persuasion with zero coercion. My client will testify to that.

One of the things I tell all my clients is the one of my responsibilities is to make their hypnosis session one of the most pleasurable experiences of their life.

If you have any questions about hypnosis give us a call (603) 589-8033.

Sincerely,

David Barron
New Hampshire Hypnosis

David Barron interviewed on Podcast

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I was recently interviewed by writer and podcaster, Danek S. Kaus, about my hypnosis practice. Danek Kaus co-authored with me the book “Power Persuasion: Using Hypnotic Influence in Life, Love and Business.”

Danek focused on what make my hypnosis practice different that most other hypnotists.  I wanted to tell him “results” but was able to get into a lot more detail.

Getting to the Subconscious Mind

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As someone who visits a hypnotist your goal is to get a desired change that you haven’t been able to achieve on your own.  That could be weight loss, stop smoking, remove a phobia or Post Traumatic Stress, etc.

As a hypnotist my goal is to help you make that change at a deeply subconscious level.  That means the change happens without you having to think about, worry about it or constantly trying to maintain the awesome result you got when you left my office. You should have  the change you want without you having to work at it.  That means you have the change you want without having to listen to hypnosis audios, repeat affirmations, think about what you remember in the session, etc.

Yes, it sounds like “magic”, but it is not.

In the early days of my hypnosis career I had subjects report to me that they had to work to maintain the results we achieved in their hypnosis session.  I began to ask this question “If hypnosis is as powerful as I know it is what can the subject and I do to make the change they want permanent from their first hypnosis session?” 

It was only after I spoke with a really great hypnotist that I realized I had to be able to gain direct access to the SubConscious mind.  This is something every hypnotist talks about but most can only do in a haphazard fashion through visualization and relaxation.  It explained why, in the early of my hypnosis career, my results were so varied.

When I can directly instruct your subconscious mind you will get the changes without having to think about it.  No more “trying to make the hypnosis work”.  It just works.  No, it’s not magic.

To do that two things have to take place – I , the hypnotist, must give clear and understandable instructions and you, the subject, must follow them exactly.  It really is that simple.  Of course, I can’t make you follow my instructions, you have to commit yourself to them. 

It is the reason most of my client seldom need a second session.  It’s also why they are overjoyed with their results.

The amusing thing is that other hypnotists criticize this way of doing business because it does not allow them to extract the most money they can from multiple sessions.

What can YOU do to get exactly what you want from your hypnosis session?

First it will help you to commit yourself 1000%  to the hypnosis experience. That means to focus your full attention on following the hypnotists instructions. If you analyse, question or think about the instruction (as opposed to following them instantly) your mind is not fully engaged in the process.

When you involve yourself so intensely in the process it becomes more than a visualization,  it becomes a total experience,  100% real, 100% pleasant and 100% effective.

If you have any questions feel free to call or email.   I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Sincerely,

David Barron

(603) 589-8033

What Happens to your body when you Quit Smoking? (603) 589-8033

How Does Hypnosis Help For Quitting Smoking?

People often ask me how hypnosis works to quit smoking.bigstock-man-hand-crushing-a-packet-of-16379711-600x300[1]

There are a lot of ways I could answer that including going into what hypnosis is and isn’t but the simplest answer I can give is to tell them it’s a trick.

Stopping smoking with hypnosis is a very interesting trick that you do with your mind.  The “trick” is to change specific beliefs and understandings about yourself and smoking.

The Belief “I am a smoker”

You never hear someone say “I’m a smoker trapped in a non-smoker’s body” because becoming a “smoker” only happens after the smoking habit is well in place.

When a person says “I’m a smoker and I want to quit” they are saying at the level of “Identity” (i.e. who they think they are) that they see themselves as a smoker.  This belief was created after they smoked tobacco for a while.  So in their mind the belief of who they are (a smoker) is the result of their smoking.

For them  becoming a non-smoker happens only after they have demonstrated non-smoking behaviors.  So, it’s only after enough time passes without smoking behaviors that they will agree they are non-smoker.

What most people don’t realize is that they can become a non-smoker by changing their belief first.

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If a smoker simply changes their belief in themselves to “I’m a non-smoker” their behavior would change.  It would happen the instant their belief changed.  So all a person has to do to stop smoking is to sincerely believe they are non-smoker.

Easier said than done.

The Problem

Unfortunately, a simple solution isn’t always an easy solution.   The problem is that most people don’t know how to alter their beliefs.

I have met people who realize their problem lies solely on their belief  of  “I’m a smoker” and just decided to change it.  They instantly quit smoking,  no longer craved cigarettes and had no tobacco withdraws …. all without hypnosis.

Again, all they did is decide to become a non-smoker and believe without hesitation or doubt.

The “trick” requires that you focus so much on the new belief  “I’m a non-smoker” that it becomes true,  real and unquestionable.

Not all of us have that skill because we tend to quickly find exceptions to our any belief that challenge us.

How Hypnosis Helps

Hypnosis helps by creating a powerful and convincing experience that makes is easy to believe “I’m a non-smoker”.  This powerful experience is in the mind of the hypnosis subject but is profound enough for them to convince themselves that they no longer smoke or have desires to smoke.  The result is the hypnosis subject accepts without doubt that they are  real life non-smoker.

Hypnosis brings the hypnosis subject’s  focus to such a laser point so that the instructions given by the hypnotist become a very profound and powerful experience.  Just enough to convince the mind that it’s true.

How To Stop Smoking WITHOUT Hypnosis

Yes, I’m talking myself out of a lot of money but here goes!

If you want to quit smoking without hypnosis simply stop believing that you are a smoker. Replace it with the belief  “I’m a non-smoker.”

If you still  find that you are smoking then you have not made “I’m a non-smoker” believable enough.  Keep at it.

Conclusion

Yes, quitting smoking IS that simple.  But “simple” doesn’t mean “easy” for most people.  That is where hypnosis can be of real help.

If you find that you are still smoking, send us a  message to New Hampshire Hypnosis to set up your no-cost consultation.

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Removing Phobias With Hypnosis

Help with phobiaHypnosis has been shown to be an effective treatment for many individuals with phobias.

A significant percentage of the population suffers from a phobia of one type or another. For some individuals it can be mildly distressing but manageable.  For others it can be seriously debilitating.

A phobia is an irrational fear of a particular stimulus. This stimulus can be a situation, a thing, or an activity.  People with phobias will either go to great lengths to avoid whatever it is they fear, or they will tolerate it with considerable anxiety. For some people, a phobia can trigger panic attacks. In severe cases the phobia can end up literally controlling a person’s life.

In short a phobia is a fear response to a stimuli. The freedom from phobias using hypnosis is achieved NOT by accessing the underlying cause of the phobia but by instructing the Subconscious mind to simply change the response to the stimuli.

Many hypnotists (wrongly) believe that the only way to remove a phobia is to find the original cause of the phobia through regression. In other words, they ask you to go back in time and relive a trauma! Why not simply change  your response to the stimuli?

The process is straightforward and lasting.

If you know someone who wants to be free of their  phobia visit us at New Hampshire Hypnosis.New hampshire Hypnosis

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Can Hypnosis Help Increase Reading Speed?

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You can learn to “Speed Read” through Hypnotherapy.

I was recently asked if one could improve their reading and comprehension with hypnosis. The answer is yes. 

What is Speed Reading?

There are various methods and even some gimmicks around that  aim to help one increase their reading speed. These programs are found in a wide variety of formats such as books and manuals, audio recordings, computer software. You have seen them before in your local book store and most probably on infomercials late at night.  You might not however be aware of how a trained hypnotherapist can help you achieve quicker reading speeds and higher retention.

Here is how Hypnotherapy can help increase reading speed:

When we begin learning to read we typically sound out the word and associate the sound to the words meaning.   We do this until we train our minds to read the word without thinking about the meaning. What usually remains is a behavior called “sub-vocalization” where we still sound out the words we are reading. Sub-vocalization becomes a habit of reading that is hard to stop and limits reading speed to about 200 words a minute.

By the time you become good at reading you recognize the words and know their meaning but the sub vocalization remains as part of the subconscious reading process.

Using hypnosis the subconscious mind is acknowledged for all it’s help with the reading process and instructed to remove the automatic  sounding out of words and associate directly to the words meaning. This can dramatically increase reading speed with no loss of comprehension.

Do you want to use hypnosis to increase your learning skills?

Call New Hampshire Hypnosis (603) 589-8033 or email us through our contact page to learn more!

 

 

 

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