You can upgrade your computer, your smart phone, your car or get a job promotion. In fact you can upgrade about any material thing you own. How would you upgrade yourself? Your upgrade has to be based in reality, so no growing wings nor being able to breathe unassisted under water. The upgrades you choose for yourself have to be specific, measurable and attainable. They could be improvement of your habits and lifestyle, a skill, or your character. All-in-all your upgrades are about being a better you, kinder, healthier, more productive with fewer problems, less fears, anxieties, neurosis. One way to start is to pick someone you admire. This could be someone you know personally, but it could also be a imaginary person with all the traits, virtues and attributes you look up to. Ask yourself the following questions: How would this person live? How would this person deal with the problems I face? How would this person keep their focus amid all of life's chaos? Would they have a schedule they would keep to? What would be the healthy habits they would practice? The more clearly you can imagine this ideal person dealing well with your problems the faster you can begin practicing these changes. Make a list of all the upgrades you want to make for your life. What are they for you? Quit smoking? Exercise? Meditate? Get up earlier? Should the ideal behavior be far from your current situation, start small. Don't overwhelm yourself by trying to make a complete overhaul of your life. Pick one thing to focus on. Celebrate your successes and ask what you learned from every time you fell short. There's no failure, only feedback. Most people get caught in the trap of wanting to upgrade too much too quickly. Instead think of [...]
Life is full of little annoyances – like when the person in front of you in line won’t stop gabbing, or when the waiter mixes up your order. Sometimes, it can be more serious, like when a client is yelling at you because they’re having a bad day. The point is that there are many events in life that we respond to by feeling frustrated. It’s normal to feel annoyance from time to time. But it’s not normal to find yourself fuming over the smallest little thing that goes wrong or to feel angry all the time. There are two ways to be happy in life 1) have people treat you the way you want (not likely) 2) Decide to respond to the people and the world in a better way. Yes, you can be the person who either reacts to events and situations or you can have a set of "first principles" to guide you no matter what sort of chaos happens around you. Start by deciding what kind of person do you want to be seen as by yourself and others. Do you want to be the person you would look up to with admiration or the person who looks back on your actions with regret and embarrassment? The next step is to practice being that person. That is not to say it will be easy. In fact expect it to be hard by going over in your mind the most difficult situations you can imagine in the most dignified and resourceful ways. Practice feeling frustrated or angry and calming your self. Rehearse responding to criticism know how the other person feels (even if they are wrong). Understand, your automatic emotional responses happen outside of your conscious control, but if you have set guidelines for your behavior you [...]
You don't have to wait until New Years to start getting a good start of healthy living. It's very common to gain about one to two pounds during the holidays. Even though this doesn’t sound dramatic, it adds up over the years. The good news is there are ways to avoid holiday weight gain. Tip #1: Don’t Avoid Meals Saving your appetite for a big holiday party or feast? Don’t. Skipping meals during the day may result in overeating. It is especially important to have breakfast, as research shows that those who eat this important morning meal tend to consume fewer calories throughout the day. Include lots of fiber by eating fruits, vegetables and whole grains. Fiber-rich foods are high in volume and will satisfy hunger, but are lower in calories. Tip #2: Keep Portions Small Holiday meals tend to be large, buffet-style and include second and third helpings. While one might not eat an entire cake, a common mistake is eating large portions of foods that are perceived as healthy. It's important to include nutrient-rich foods in your diet, but also remember that these foods have calories as well and should be eaten in moderation. Using this approach at the holiday dinner table will allow you to maintain a healthful eating plan — one that can also include dessert. Tip #3: Have a Strategy to Avoid Overeating — and Use It! There are many strategies to help you avoid overeating. Using a smaller plate, for instance, allows you to put less food on your plate and encourages proper portion sizes. Also, start by filling your plate with vegetables and salad before going to the entrees and desserts. Eating a salad before your meal can help you eat fewer calories overall. Eat slowly and savor every bite, and before you [...]
Fear of Flying is one of the more common irrational fears. One reason is that there are many aspects to flying that are potentially psychologically disturbing. For example, being restricted in a small space for a long time without any possibility of changing your situation can be very uncomfortable for many people. In addition, there is a small but real danger to flying; you are high up in the air moving at great speeds. For many the most anxiety generating aspect of flying is that you are totally dependent on the judgment and actions of total strangers for your safety. As you see, fear of flying can combine elements of other phobias and fears, such as fear of confining spaces and fear of heights. It also includes elements of fear of loss of control, and anxiety about some possible future catastrophic and even fatal, event. Another influence that helps create fear of flying is the media. Through catastrophic depictions in movies and on television, individuals are vicariously experience the most frightening of flying situations. All of which cannot but reinforce and intensify all the aspects of flying that might lead one to develop such a fear of flying that they can no longer tolerate getting on a plane. The Irrational Nature of Fear of Flying Thousands of planes all over the world, regularly, safely complete their trips each and every day. It is thus readily apparent that while some apprehension is reasonable, it would be irrational and unreasonable to let the hazards of flying prevent you from taking advantage of one of the most wonderful amenities of modern life, being able to quickly travel to other places with great speed. I know most of you would consider a person who avoids going riding in car because of the danger involved, to be excessively [...]
Want to reduce Stress? Listen to this song. We all need control over stress no matter how well we pull ourselves together. According to Dr. David Lewis-Hodgson of Mindlab International, which conducted the research, the top song produced a greater state of relaxation than any other music tested to date. In fact, listening to that one song — “Weightless” — resulted in a striking 65 percent reduction in participants’ overall anxiety, and a 35 percent reduction in their usual physiological resting rates. Of the top track, Dr. David Lewis-Hodgson said, “‘Weightless’ was so effective, many volunteers became drowsy and it would advise against driving while listening to the song because it could be dangerous.” So, don’t drive while listening to these, but do take advantage of them: “We Can Fly,” by Rue du Soleil (Café Del Mar) “Canzonetta Sull’aria,” by Mozart “Someone Like You,” by Adele “Pure Shores,” by All Saints “Please Don’t Go,” by Barcelona “Strawberry Swing,” by Coldplay “Watermark,” by Enya “Mellomaniac (Chill Out Mix),” by DJ Shah “Electra,” by Airstream “Weightless,” by Marconi Union There’s also a free 10-hour version of “Weightless” available if you want a longer listening experience. Book an appointment with New Hampshire Hypnosis by calling (603)589-8033 or do it online in the form below.
We make hundreds, maybe even thousands, of decisions every day. Our everyday decisions affect our accomplishments, our relationships, and our general well being. Given their recurrence and significance, how can we make better decisions all the more often? One way is to consistently ask questions that lead to better decisions, let me demonstrate…. 1. Would this decision improve the lives of others? Overlooking the effect of our decisions on others goes against our best interest. Why? Since mutual relationships and concern are a key part of achievement and prosperity. Thus, a decision to help other people, to offer thanks, or to cultivate social association, is usually a good one. Likewise, we benefit from thinking about the effect that our decisions have upon others in a range of ways. 2. Does this decision lined up with my long-term objectives? What’s most important to you? What is going to be most instrumental to your success? If you haven’t done so already, consider recording your answer to that question and referring to it regularly. A fierce effort over time to our outcomes is basic to accomplishing anything of meaning. When making a decision, consider if it is serving your main objectives and goals in some effective way. 3. How might I move to the best decisions? It’s January (for example) and you’ve chosen that for the rest of the year you will eat healthier. Think of it as done! …right??? Alright, perhaps not exactly yet. To nudge your impulsive self to act consistently with that ideal outcome, appropriate cues can help. For example, placing healthy foods within easy view and easy reach, while doing the opposite for unhealthy foods, may help you to make progress toward your goal. What can you do to help yourself make healthier decisions. I find that good decisions [...]
Most people don’t know that there are many types of hypnosis. They go by all sorts of interesting names and equally interesting claims, “past life regression”, “ericksonian”, “authoritarian”, “deep trance”, “core transformation”, even “demonic de-possession”. Because hypnosis works so intensely with the human mind and imagination people have taken the study of hypnosis into some very interesting (perhaps “weird”) directions. Many hypnotists are proud to advertise their style hypnosis, so it’s natural to ask ‘which type of hypnosis is best?’ The answer is simple: the one that gets the result. Since 1998, when I started helping people with hypnosis I learned that very few people will eagerly pay for hypnosis. What they will pay for is a RESULT. What hypnosis has been proven to do well is to help modify the internal feelings and responses that people have little or no control over. They want to stop smoking, or lose weight, or overcome anxiety. RESULTS are what people are willing to pay for, thus, if you are looking for a hypnotist, they’re style of hypnosis isn’t as important as their ability to get you the results you’re looking for. For the consumer focused on results here are some recommended questions to ask of the hypnotist you might be working with: -> Have you helped people with _____? (Insert the result you are looking for.) -> How does it work? (They should describe the process you will go through is clear and understandable manner.) -> What do you charge? (Always good to know.) -> Do you have any guarantees? (Some hypnotists provide guarantees under certain conditions.) If you have any questions about hypnosis you are welcome to contact my office and my secretary will connect you directly to me. (603)589-8033
Being a professional hypnotist for two decades has taught me a lot. It’s taught me that people can change in dramatic and positive ways given all the right reasons. I’ve seen people quit smoking and never go back after one session. I’ve seen people overcome paralyzing PTSD and phobias, change behaviors and start making healthy life sustaining decisions in what seems like minutes. To my surprise what I’ve learned late in my career is that hypnosis doesn’t really matter. Let me explain. “Hypnosis” is the name given to a very natural process. It seems mysterious and magical but, in fact, it’s very straight forward. We’ve all has some form of hypnosis happen to us in our lives. Maybe it’s when you were watching a movie and got so involved you could feel your heart race and your emotions swell. Maybe it was a time you witnessed something so dramatic you decide, then and there, to make a change to your life. These are all forms of “hypnosis” and they happen to all of us. Hypnosis is just the process one goes through to make changes. Think of any dramatic decision or change you’ve made and you will find a form of “hypnosis” in that experience. The reason why “hypnosis” shouldn’t matter is that no one has ever willingly paid me for “hypnosis”. What they wanted was a result, a specific change. They wanted to go through a process that would make improving their lives seem simple and easy. “Hypnosis” didn’t matter at all. Getting the change they wanted did matter. With this realization I no longer have to sell people on hypnosis… because hypnosis doesn’t matter. Becoming a non-smoker is what matters. Getting over PTSD and phobias are what matters. Making life better is want matters. If you have any [...]
Because hypnosis has a sense of mystery about it a common question I get is “what’s it like to be hypnotized?” A lot of people think hypnosis is like sleep because what they have seen are people completely relaxed and appearing to be asleep and unconscious. The truth is they are very much aware what is being told to them. Everyone has a slightly different experience but what hypnotized people have in common is that hypnosis is a highly focused state of concentration. With that in mind, imagine being both completely relaxed and comfortable and focusing intensely on something that is important and meaningful to you. That is what it’s like to be hypnotized. Within that highly focused and relaxed state you will create, plan and rehearse new habits, responses and behaviors that seemed impossible when you were trying to consciously control them. The hypnotic process also creates a powerful opportunity to directly address subconscious processes that no longer help you and change them directly. Remember, it is the RESULT that matters. Some people will say “I don’t think I was hypnotized” but they are changed! They still get their result. If you want to experience what a hypnosis session is like you can visit this web page and participate in a no cost hypnosis audio session. http://newhampshirehypnosis.com/audio If you have any questions about how hypnosis can help, please feel free to contact me. Thank you for taking a look at how hypnosis can help you. You’ll be working with professionals that have over 20 years of experience helping people, just like you. Warmly, David Barron New Hampshire Hypnosis
Hypnosis has the ability to change deep unconscious habits that seem outside of your conscious control. But there is a way to bring many habits under our control without resorting to fatigue producing “will power”. The process is called Mindfulness. I often encourage my hypnosis clients to practice a simple exercise in mindfulness. Mindfulness does not mean sitting cross-legged in meditating for hours. Instead, it is the very simple and intentional Act of paying attention. Putting all of your attention to what you are doing without judgement and without emotion. Mindfulness is the act of observing what you are experiencing with intense curiosity. When one practices mindfulness and applies it to habits like smoking, compulsive eating, anxiety or other seemingly subconscious processes, interesting things are uncovered. For the smoker, the Habit that used to happen automatically now is given awareness and the smoker begins to discover things they had not been fully aware of. The taste of the smoke is much less Pleasant, The Habit not really as urgent as it used to feel. Keep in mind, mindfulness does not mean trying to gain control over the habit, only to observe it with intense curiosity. By bringing awareness to the habit the habit changes on it’s own. By using your awareness in this way you can get yourself “unstuck” from long and persistent habits. There are other benefits to practicing mindfulness. Mindfulness can: help relieve stress, treat heart disease, lower blood pressure, reduce chronic pain, improve sleep, and alleviate gastrointestinal difficulties. Author David Barron is a 20 year veteran hypnotist with over 10,000 clinical hours helping people make change. You can contact David at this link.